This is what I’ve learned so far in my working experience: you should consider leaving your position and/or looking for a new environment if you fall into one or all of the follow:

Due to personal experience, I know those are the things that can create a great impact in your personal life as well as your professional life, and if you don’t get out now or actively looking for a way out now, it will scar, follow, and haunt you for the rest of your life. It has greatly impacted my personally life. I’ve become bitchy and harsh at those around me in my personal life because of the crappy boss at work. I carry the aggravation and defensed attitude even when I’m off work. I’ve carried them and stuffed the bottled anger and exasperation at my loved one and my significant other.

I, now, regret my time spent with my significant other on Chinese New Year weekend because I’ve made him felt less important due to the fact that I was overly annoyed by the unappreciative and abusiveness of my boss. I’ve acted out what I’ve been done to to him in that short period of time we were together. Now I only wish he knew how important he was to me and how I treasured him so, and I’m sorry I’ve made him felt that way. Also I, now, regret the way I’ve treated my family because I always come home in a bad mood. Forget and forgive is always given at home but I feel really bad and sorry for the times I’ve mistreated them. The times that I’ve done wrong to those I love can’t be replaced and repaired. It’s like a nail being hammered into a wall and then pulled out. Surely, the nail is being pulled, gone, but the hole on the wall is always there. No matter how and what you try to cover up, it can not be recovered, as smooth and as beautiful as it was before. The scar is always there inside the ones I love because of my ineffectness of handling with the abusiveness at work.

Looking for a way out, actively hunting for another job doesn’t make you a loser, a quitter. As a matter of fact, calling quit at an abusive position makes you a winner! Do I sound like I’m buffing myself up? Heck, I am. I have had enough with this. I find myself not wanting to go to work, being at work or think about work. I find myself avoiding talking my boss. When he talks to me, I don’t even want to listen and/or reply to him. I find myself being closely related to the rest of the staff in the office. I am looking for a way out because I want to growth healthy: mentally, emotionally and not to mention about physically because I’ve become physically ill. I found myself not wanting to eat because I’m sick of work and everything that is going on during that 8 hours of the day. I find myself eating less at lunch because of the thought I have to go back to work after it. And I wonder how on the earth have I let this going/running in my life? How in the world I’ve allowed myself working in such a place for months? Where’s that happy place I used to come everyday in the morning? And the more important questions are: What have I become? Why am I doing this to myself? Why am I doing this to the people I love? If my boss hasn’t checked the spyware program on my computer at work to read this, and not turn around treat people at work better including me, then one by one will leave and of course, along with others, he will also get a reality check from me, my notice.

This had happened to me before, years ago when I was young. I thought quitting was bad so I bit the bullet and got on with work. I’m experiencing the same thing now but only worse. The difference between then and now is that I know that it is the best thing in life that I can do for myself in my career. It shows that I’m protecting not only myself but also the people in my life. You can go on and advise to ‘let it roll off my back.’ Well, been there, done that and more. Enough is enough. There’s always a capacity and allowance for everything. And it’s always worth it to move on or let go of things like this, you know, because job comes and goes. Loved one always stays no matter what. This has costed me happiness in my personal life as well as professional. And you know what, at this day and age, I know that family, loved ones are worth way more than any amount of money in the world. They don’t pay me enough for this and they never will. I am damn certain of that!